This is my favorite part of the song.
Something I've been working on lately is accentuating the positive. It's a challenge when it's so easy to dwell on the negative. And the in-between stuff really messes with the mind, doesn't it?
When my husband and I decided to stop pursuing infertility treatments and move to the path of adoption I decided to begin seeing an infertility therapist. I'm so grateful that there is a therapist in my area that specializes in infertility and adoption.
My biggest issue these days is working on positive thinking. MM (what I call my therapist online) believes that if you think positive thoughts, then positive things will come to you. Are you a believer in that theory?
I have a Pandora bracelet. I started it when we started our infertility treatments again two years ago. Every bead and charm on there has a meaning to me. Some of them relate to our infertility journey and some of them relate to trips or things we have done during that time.
Recently I rearranged it and realized I had enough space for two additional charms. A friend asked me what charms I was going to get to complete it.
I stopped to think and told her that if we adopt then I would buy a charm at that time. When I repeated that to MM she reminded me that I said "if."
Those two little letters change the tone of that sentence doesn't it. What if I had said "when we adopt" instead of "if we adopt." That changes that it completely.
Later I stopped to think about how many times I say "if" or "not until" or "not yet." I realized I say those phrases a lot.
So now I'm focusing on saying "when" and keeping a positive perspective. That is a challenge, isn't it?
But it's hard to do when you're battling infertility. When you're deep in the trenches and battling to start your family it's hard to stay positive.
How do YOU stay positive? How do you focus on being positive instead of falling into the trap of negativity?
I'd love to hear your thoughts.